Aly’s Ark Transcript

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Welcome back to another episode of The Horth House. This is your host, Aly Horth. Oh, I'm so happy to have you here. Thank you so much for joining me. This is a podcast for anyone that has grown up without one or maybe both of your parents and how the lack of that relationship can impact the other relationships you have in your life, whether they are platonic, romantic with other family members, or even the relationship you have within yourself. Today we are going to talk about daddy issues. We're going to dive into what exactly are daddy issues. How did this concept kind of come about? What's its history? So, it's going to be a little bit informative. I just really wanted to cover the basics today, and I think it's really funny. I'm just constantly going on tangents today. I don't know why. It's just so funny to me.

So, I am a little bit anxious today. Like, a little bit anxious. Okay. I've been anxious for the last couple of days. I don't know why. I don't know what's going on with me. I don't know. Honestly, my hormones are, like, off the charts right now. Like, it's been oh, my gosh. It's been a whole thing. I was allergic to some, like, multivitamins that I was taking and, they broke out my skin and, like, kickstarted my whole shark week. It was, like, a whole thing. I'm telling you guys way too much. So sorry. Anyway, so this is where I'm at right now. I'm a little bit anxious. I'm a little bit off the charts. I don't know what's going on.

My tangents are going to be like nothing else you've ever heard before. Maybe I'm anxious because I know I have to talk about this right now. Maybe that's why. I just need to talk about something. And I know it's going to get my adrenaline going and my blood pressure up a little bit. So maybe that's what it is. Maybe my body's just telling me, like, girl, you got to just ride it out and we'll get there.

Okay. Anyway, so I need to introduce my good friend Sparky. I had a friend move in a few months back. It's been about six to eight months, maybe a year, but I think it's been about six to eight months since my good friend moved in. And we call them Sparky, and they're just a great time, okay? They throw really large, like, Great Gatsby-size parties, and they always have lots of friends. And I constantly see them doing, like, the funniest things on my outdoor cameras, and it's so great to me. And I hear them sometimes in the attic. Like, they'll just go up there randomly and sometimes even in the night just to be funny. And, you know, it's been fun. It's been fun, and I enjoyed it. And unfortunately, my friend Sparky is I don't know really what happened to sparky, but I don't know that they're doing well. Okay? And don't worry, it's not a person, it's a rat. I had mice living in my house, and it was fantastic. I think there was a family of anywhere from twelve to 20 of them. Okay? We had twelve to 20 fucking mice living in this house. Are you kidding me? Are you kidding me? We had, like, 20 mice living here. That's got to be a joke. I actually don't know if they're mice or rats. I think they're rats because they look huge, but maybe they're just really, like, obese mice. I don't know. I don't know. I should find out. Maybe next time I see one, I'll just ask it a little question and be like, hey, are you a mouse or a rat? Is that rude? Oh, God, I don't even know the difference. Oh, that's just disrespect. Never mind. Moving on.

So, I don't know how long it's been now. As I said, I think anywhere from, like anywhere from six to twelve months. That's where we're at right now. I have had a nemesis named Sparky, and they were constantly having, like, little rat friends over and, you know, stepping in the attic at night, and I could hear them, and it was just it was terrifying. Like, there are videos of me where I'm walking into my house and we have this little overhang right before the front door, and it would literally be sitting there while I'm in the front door, so it could have just jumped on my head. Sparky the ratatouille. We love to see it. We love to see it. Snaps for it. Yes. Bitch. So recently we had to put some new insulation into the house because it has been a whole time and we wanted to get rid of the mice. So, we've done that, and it's been great. Well, now we have an issue where I guess all of the mice are not gone, which is where Sparky comes in. And we didn't know how many mice there were, so we don't know how many there are to catch. But there's a ton of construction going on in my neighborhood right now, and it's a lot going on. So, there's, like, mice and rats and just critters everywhere. Like, we have raccoons, we have possums, we have coyotes here. We have geese, we have now rats. We have mice. I think I said that. We have oh, we have an owl. We have an owl that almost stalked my fucking dog because my dog is white as snow. Hello? No, it's not Jon Snow.

No, I've never seen Game of Thrones. I don't know what it is, but I mean, I do know what it is, and actually, I called the ending of Game of Thrones, and then I had someone ruin Game of Thrones for me on Tinder because they put it in their bio. And I was so annoyed.  I've gone, like, almost a year without knowing this. And I was actually loving the suspense because maybe one day I'll watch the show. No, now I know the ending. I'm over, and I'm good. Thank you. It's like knowing the end of How I Met Your Mother. Oh, if you've watched that show, it's great. But then you get to the end, you're like, Seriously? What the f*ck is this about? It's so frustrating. But it's such a great show. I watch it constantly, but I just don't watch the last, like, ten episodes. Wow. Okay, how did we get here? Oh, we were talking about the animals in my neighborhood. Yeah, the owl.

So, yeah, we've got owls, we've got squirrels, like, I don't even know. And then we've got humans, obviously, they're a whole different breed. And I don't understand what's happening here, but it's a lot. So, I wake up one day, and I'm trying to charge my computer. I'm sitting in my room, and I'm trying to charge it, and it won't charge, and I'm like, okay, maybe it's just my computer, maybe it's my charger, whatever. We have, like, the Bezos version of Siri. It's not working. My lights aren't working. I'm like, what the heck? What is going on? Okay, maybe it's just this plug. I go try another one in my room. Doesn't work. I go try another one in the house. It doesn't work. I try another one. It doesn't work. I'm like, what is happening in this house? What is going on right now? Well, I find out that the breaker went out and everything, so I'm like, okay, cool. I'll just go reset everything. I reset all the breakers and everything. It's still not working in my room. I'm like, what the heck? The plugs that I tested out before, still not working. Don't understand. So, I wait a couple of days. I'm like, okay, what's going on? Finally, we get, like, an electrician to come out here, and we're like, hey, what happened? Like, what's going on?

What ended up happening was that Sparky, our good pal, our good friend, our good buddy, ended up going in the attic, falling in a small section, or maybe he was crawling down to it. I really don't know how he got there, but he ended up chewing through one of the wires, okay? Apparently, it looked like string cheese to him. He was all about the mozzarella for that day. Okay, that was a terrible accent. He was all about the cheddar that day, and he really wanted some cheese, and ended up thinking that this string cheese was in front of him, but really it was a mirage, and it was a wire. So, Sparky sparked himself to the Rainbow Bridge and ended up killing the power in our house. Okay, so all the lights work on the light switches, but none of the actual plugs work in the house. Okay? There's a few that work, but not really. So, we're in the midst of trying to figure out how to do all this. Well, the electrician tells us, oh, I can't put it back together because it's like a whole thing, and if I do, it'll start a fire and sorry, I can't like, fix it. And we're like, okay, well, what do we do? He's like, I don't know. I'll come back to fix it. You guys, it's been two fucking weeks and we still don't have power. What am I supposed to do? I don't even understand. Okay, so we have extension cords going from the garage because the garage was updated a few years ago with all of its power. So, it's chilling. It's like one of the few places we have power in the entire room, basically. So, we are having extension cords go from the garage into the house. We have to have the screens open or we have to do something to have it go under the window or the wall or like, you know, whatever. So, all the windows are open, all the mosquitoes are getting in, because for whatever reason, we have a ton of mosquitoes right now in our neighborhood. Like, okay, I'm just wondering I'm just asking for a friend here, but between the raccoons, the possums, the rats, the mice, the mosquitoes, the cockroaches, the what else we got? Oh, the owls, the eagles, the geese. Like, what else? The squirrels? Like what? Where am I living? Where am I living? Noah's ark. Noah's ark? Are you f**king kidding me? Like what this is? Welcome to Horth’s Ark, Aly's Ark. Nice to have you. If anyone needs a roommate, send me a DM because shout the f**k out. I can't live here. I don't know.

I don't know when I'm getting power again. I don't know when the electricians coming back. I don't even know if he is coming back. He might have left. He might have just decided that he was going to go on holiday and go to Paris for the week. I don't know where he is. He's been gone for two weeks. I have no power. I don't understand what's happening. I just you guys, this is not a drill, okay? This is not a drill. I need a roommate. Someone slide into my DMs because I am losing it right now.

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Alright, there are a few different definitions of daddy issues and there are some that are pretty accurate and then there are some that are just hilariously funny to me. So, Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung, a neurologist and psychoanalyst, they kind of coined the term the father complex, which is also known as the Oedipus complex. If you don't have about Oedipus, I'll briefly explain it to you. So, the story of Oedipus is that when Oedipus, was a Greek god when Oedipus was born, he was given a prophecy like most Greek gods were, and his parents were told to do prophecy. And the prophecy was that he was going to end up killing his father and falling in love and marrying his mother. And so, they were so afraid of this that they ended up sending him off to a different village. And at one point he found out that he was adopted and he wasn't related to the people he was living with his entire life. So, he storms off, and he ends up going to this other village in search of his biological parents. And Oedipus ends up getting in this big accident. And with, like, the carriages or whatever they were traveling on, Oedipus ends up killing a man, doesn't know that it's his father, goes to this castle, ends up finding this woman, falls in love with her, thinks she's amazing and comes to find out that that is his mother. And so, they end up having children, the whole thing. It's such a weird story. Anyway, he ends up freaking out so much that he ends up stabbing his eyeballs out and then he's like so disgusted by his life and everything that he just doesn't know what to do. So, this is known as the Oedipus complex or the father complex. Oedipus complex, there's kind of two different versions of this for men and for women. So, the Oedipus complex refers to specifically men with unconscious sexual desires toward their mothers. And Freud said that this was a natural developmental stage that all boys and men will go through like every boy will go through this phase where they are like sexually attracted to their mothers. Now there is also a complex for women and that is known as the Electra complex. And this is a complex that was introduced by Carl Jung who decided that this was going to be used to describe the same theory as the Oedipus complex just with women and their fathers. And you know, it was something that women were attracted to men or were attracted to their fathers in a certain way. I don't think that's true. I don't look at my dad and I'm like, oh my God, he's so hot. Oh my God, I love that. Like so sexy. Love that. Okay, no, but also, I do go for men that do kind of look like my dad, but only in a brief sense. Now I did get asked on a date. I think there are two people in the world that have asked me on a date and they look a lot like my dad. Like, I have a picture of him from about when he was my age, so I kind of know they looked so much like him that I genuinely could not date him because it just weirded me out so much. So, I don't think I necessarily have this sexual attraction or desire towards my dad or someone that looks like my dad. But I do have a certain type and my dad is tall, I want to say probably 6162, like an Italian man, good head of brunette hair, dark eyes, and a good-looking man. Okay, I'm not going to lie. He is a good-looking guy. And I have a type where it's like a tall skinny guy with brown hair and that's it. So, it is kind of the same type, but it's very different. I think primarily I had a boyfriend when I was like 15 and he shaped the mold for all of them because most of my boyfriends look exactly like him. It's very weird. One of my best friends used to say that the guys that I date are just copycat versions of the next guy. Like it's just they're just the next version of them. They just look a little different. Maybe they just talk a little bit differently. It's really funny. But anyway, so the Oedipus complex and the electro complex, it really ended up just being like the sexual attraction to your parents. And that's not necessarily what I'm talking about.

So, what I'm talking about is something that Urban Dictionary really just nailed on the head and that is that a daddy issue is considered when a girl has a messed-up relationship with her father, usually the father's fault, either he left or he is acting like a total bitch. Okay, that is the definition. I love that. Okay, snaps for that one. That's great. The second one is daddy issues are a result of the girl potentially being attracted to older men or men with anger issues if her father was an angry man. And sometimes we'll stay in abusive relationships because it feels like home. It's a very familiar feeling. The person is kind of like your dad psychologically and so you want to be around that person because they remind you of home. Ally, are you hearing this? Because this is you. Yeah, I hear it. Thanks for calling me. Yes, I hear it. Your parent not being around is absolutely like on them and sucks for them. They're really missing out. OK. Some examples of daddy issues would be being anxious when you aren't with your partner or potentially needing a lot of reassurance in your relationship, that it's okay and it's doing well. Seeing negativity as a sign that the relationship is doomed or not doing well. You are going for emotionally unavailable or detached people. You potentially have patterns of abuse, physical, sexual, and emotional, and you might be abusive or you might choose abusive partners. So, let's say you grew up potentially with someone that was abusive. You might go towards people that are like that because, in your brain, you don't know any different. And so, there's a repeated cycle of, like, you know, unhealthy attachment, basically, where you are continuously looking for this person to make you feel better, but you don't know why you keep going for the same people. And it's really just a pattern that's in your brain that doesn't know any different. Daddy issues could also be considered going for controlling people or overbearing people you being controlling or overbearing, being unreliable financially, emotionally, or physically, maybe one or all of these things. And like I said a minute ago, experiencing any, like, substance abuse or addictions is definitely a big one. That is a huge statistic that goes on, a large portion of people without parents experience addictions, but a lot of people without dads do. It's really intense. So, a fear of abandonment, tying sex to self-esteem. So, the better you are at sex or the more sexually active you are, or more experienced I guess you are, then that is what boosts your self-esteem. So, you think that that's like a great thing of like, oh, I've slept with this many people and it's so many, and then thinking that that amounts to, like, what a great person you are, you can also have like, extreme jealousy and yeah, so there's definitely a lot more, but that's like, a good portion of them.

The term daddy issues are one thing, but there's also this other thing that is considered like a dadless daughter or a dadless child. And that is when your father was there and now it's gone. Whether they are divorced or there's a death, maybe they're in prison or any other reason. Like, there can be a million different reasons why your parent isn't around, especially your dad. There is a term for it and it's a dadless daughter or a dabbled child, for instance. You can also have a dad that was at home but maybe wasn't mentally present. This can include having a parent that was an alcoholic or a drug addict. Maybe they were emotionally abusive, physically abusive. There can also be a parent that has had severe mental health issues that impacted your relationship in a negative way. If you heard in episode one, that's exactly what happened to me. Of course, there were a lot of these other issues that were in here, but for me, primarily, it was that my parents had a severe mental health issue and it ruined our relationship and they never wanted to acknowledge it, let alone get help for it. You could also be considered a dadless daughter if your dad was never around. And this could mean your relationship with him was incredibly inconsistent or you've never met him before. I know women that have met their dads maybe once or twice in their life and that's it. Or he would come around. My parents would say this a lot and I think it's a really great way to put it is like they would be parents when they wanted to be parents. My parents let me read back that up. My parents wouldn't say that about themselves and they would be like, you know, they come around when they want to be parents themselves. And it was really interesting. I've met people like this, where they are parents when they want to be. They're not like full-time parents. They just do it when they want and it's not great. I'm not going to knock anyone, but it's not great. So that can definitely mess with the person because you're just not sure when your parent will be there, you're not sure when they won't be. Like, you don't know if you can count on them. And it brings up a lot of trust issues with the kids because you don't know if you can trust your parent when you should always be able to trust your parent, especially as a child. But if you're like me and you've never met your dad, that can definitely mess with you as well because you never met them, you have no idea what they're like. And there are all these different ideas you can have about it and you can, like, romanticize everything about your parent, even though none of that is true.

There's kind of a thing in the world of like your dad is supposed to be the first person that like a man or, you know, his son looks up to and sees as like a role model or a guide. And for the females, it's like the first person that's supposed to teach you to love and admiration and care, right? For men, I think you are looking at your dad as a role model or someone that embodies what it means to be, quote a man or quote a dad or a father figure of some sort. And then for women, as I said, we look for our dads for like guidance and value and potential qualities in a future partner. There are a lot of stereotypes and a lot of statistics about people without fathers, especially children without fathers. And what is life without a little fear and stress about a situation that you have no control over it? I don't know what it is, but one thing I will say is that I think I've said it before that one of the things that really hurt me growing up was that I had so many different, like stereotypes and statistics against me that I felt like most of my life, all I was really doing was just trying to prove these wrong. So here are some of them. I'm not going to list all of them because there are quite a few, but we're going to go through just a brief little amount of them. Okay? So, let's start from the beginning. When you are in early childhood, there are a number of studies that say that when you are a school-aged child, let's say you're like an elementary school or middle school. So anywhere from like age five to maybe. 13 and you have a good relationship with your father, you are less likely to experience depression, and you are less likely to exhibit disruptive behavior and also less likely to lie. During those years, kids without a father have a slightly more diminished self-image. They have a little bit less confidence. When you grow up without your parent, there is a lot of physical and emotional security is compromised. Many children report feeling abandoned when their fathers are not involved in their lives, and that causes them to struggle with their emotions or periods of self-loathing, anxiety, and depression. There's a lot that can go underneath that. Again, it's kind of like this giant umbrella we have of daddy issues and just the categories and categories and categories and like, subcategories that all go underneath this. There is so much, and it's so deeply rooted. So, as I said, you know, slow and steady wins the race, you guys. Like, we're going to have to just really take our time going into this, okay? I do not want us to belly-flop in this entire situation. One of the things that are also incredibly, incredibly sad to me because I've lost a number of friends to this, is the number of suicides every year. 63. 63% of all the youth in the world that commit suicide every year do not have fathers. If that doesn't scream that at least part of this is an issue with, like, depression, anxiety, or own self-worth, it definitely is. Of course, there are mental health issues that can come under this that are far deeper, but for the most part, like, you can develop a very, very intense level of depression. When I was a kid, I was incredibly depressed. I don't know if I've said this or not. I might have said this in the last episode, but I'm not sure. But for the most part, from age seven until I was probably about 13-15, somewhere around there, I cried myself to sleep, like, almost every single night. Like, of course, there were time periods where I was happy, but like, they were, for the most part, that was all I did. I just cried myself to sleep because I was so sad. So, it's definitely something that affects you. And I've had to work through, like, the depression that is Father s Day and my dad and everything because it's so much to handle sometimes.

So, in grades seven to twelve, so what is that, like age twelve to 18, people without fathers or someone that has only one biological parent or has experienced divorce or separation report having lower grade point averages than those that live with both parents. And I remember my parents actually saying that to me when I was a kid of like, you know, like, if we didn't have you or like you didn't have us and you only had one parent, like, your grades wouldn't be as good. You guys, I think I got a D minus every year in history. Like, God, I hated it was so boring. Anyway, moving on. So about 71% of high school dropouts are students without fathers. So, 71% and many of those children drop out at the age of 16. Fatherless children are also more troubled academically. As I said, most of the children that have grown up without one or both of their parents have ended up having a lower GPA. Many people without fathers end up scoring way lower on tests and reading mathematics thinking skills, like any of those standardized testing things. Like, people without fathers are known to score lower because they don't have the stability of two parents. This is probably the one that really hit me when I was younger because my mom did have me at such a young age, and my grandparents really instilled in me that that was not going to happen to me at all. Like, they would never let that happen. And there are higher rates of sexual activity and teen pregnancy and people women without fathers, so fatherless children are more likely to experience problems with sexual health. More than likely they're going to have sex before the age of 16. I'm not going to say how old I was, but that's about the age that I was. So, people without fathers are less likely to use contraceptives the first time that they have intercourse, making them first-time. Parents and teenage parents. A lot of people don't end up learning about safe sex practices from their parents because either they have one parent. They are busy trying to hold down the whole fort or their parent just overlooks the whole conversation thinking that like school will teach them or they'll just figure it out or you'll know and unfortunately, that's not true. And my parents, my grandparents really instilled in me, like, have safe sex very much mean girls of like, if you have sex unprotected, you will get chlamydia and you will die. That was the way I saw it. Like my biggest fear in life. It was so funny. One of my best friends, Carissa, and I, used to say, like, her biggest fear growing up was going to be, like getting cancer. Like, she never wants to get cancer. It's her biggest fear in life. My biggest fear in life is getting an STD. Like, I've never had an STD. Shut the fuck out. Never had an STD. I've been asleep for years. I've never had an STD, and I feel damn good about it. Thank you so much. Wrap it up, and keep it tight, y'all. Wow, okay. But There's A Lot of People that end up having sex the first time or even, you know there's a lot of people I Know that even if they don't, they just are very lax about, like, their sexual practices. And they've gotten multiple STDs, or they've ended up having children themselves at a really young age, and they just repeat the cycle that their parents just did. So instead of being the cycle breaker and being a little bit better than the situation and not putting their kid in potentially the same situation, they end up repeating the cycle and literally putting their kid back in the same exact situation that they were experiencing when they were a kid. So yeah, as I said, there are higher rates of getting STDs and sexually transmitted infections. I guess they are called STIs now, aren't they? Oh, I apologize. I think they're called STIs now.

A couple of things that I think are a little bit sadder, honestly, just to get a little sad and dark here for a minute is that there are a lot of children that experience homelessness or even people that experience homelessness and many of them come from homes without fathers. 90%. Okay? There's a ton of research that has shown that 90%, 90%, almost 100% 90% of children that are runaways experience homelessness and they have an absent father. So, 90% of the kids that run away from home and end up homeless are fatherless. Again, if that does not show that this at least has some contribution to your mental health or your well-being or the foundation at your core of like being well structured and all these things there's a higher crime with us, there's higher homelessness, there's higher STDs and STI's, there's higher pregnancy. There's nothing really positive on our side right now, right? It's just making it seem like there's everything against us. And like I told you guys, one of the hardest things was having to deal with all these stereotypes and all this heaviness of like you are broken if you're this you have all these fucked up things about you and you have to like I had to prove that I wasn't any of these things. Most people just have to make sure that they aren't doing those things. I had to prove that I was not going to from like a really young age. It's just ridiculous. OK? People without fathers get blamed for so much shit and it's so frustrating to me anyway.

So, children and father-absent homes are also four times more likely to become poor. 44% of children in poverty are in mother-only families and about four times the poverty rate of those in married-couple families. So, you know, four times as many people in poverty are those in single-home families. Primarily single mom families. Like moms are holding it down and they're just trying their damn best, and they're in poverty and they're struggling and it's sad. And I also think that goes for the moms. It's like, there's a lot of, like, negativity around. Like the mom and our moms get called like, whores and dirty and sluts and like, oh, keep your legs closed. Like, oh, no, no. Oh, you had your kid young. You must have been really, like, immature or not thinking or this or that. And people don't understand. Like, people don't understand that. Like, shit happens. Okay? Shit happens. Life happens. Like, things just happen. Sorry, I can't help you there, but things just happen. Okay? Now this will be our last little segment, but I thought I would leave the best for last. I thought I would really wait to attack myself until the very end. Okay? So, when you are a fatherless child, you are more likely to be in an unhealthy relationship with a significant other or even with friends. So, a fatherless child is more likely to have difficulties in social adjustment, and so it's more likely that they're going to have problems with friendships and then they end up manifesting, like, behavioral problems. So, this is hilarious. OK, I have this written down and it's like this exact answer, and then right underneath it says in all caps, Aly, this is you. OK, so here you go. If you want to know me, this is me. It's funny, I've met so many people that are like, Aly, you seem so intimidating at first. Like, it's so scary being around you. Like, you just look like you're just so mean and like, so angry and like no, I'm just like, always on the defense. Like, I always think that I don't know, my fight or flight is just always ready to go. And I'm genuinely so nice when you get to talk to me, but I look terrifying. So, it says here that fatherless children are more likely to manifest behavioral problems. Many of us develop an intimidating persona to disguise our underlying fears, resentments, anxieties, and unhappiness. Ali, this is you. This is me. I mean, it's not as much now, but it definitely was back in the day, when I was younger, when I was in middle school, elementary school, and high school. I was so mean. I was like, absolutely the mean girl. Okay, I am fully here to understand that and own that. I was really nice and I had a lot of friends and I had a lot of different groups that I was a part of and all this stuff, but I could also be a total bitch to people. And I knew that, okay? I knew that I'm the person that if I like you, I really like you and you know it. But if I don't like you, you know it as well. And your kind of just it's one of those I feel bad because sometimes it kind of comes off like, okay, I really don't like you. Just please don't fucking talk to me. But it doesn't mean to like, I'm not a mean person. I just have, like, this persona, I guess, that I put on that I'm a mean person. But honestly, I'm really nice. Fatherless children also tend to enter partnerships early. So, we start dating at a younger age. We start really getting married within, like, a couple of weeks or a couple of months. We don't really process our relationships as long or as well as other people do. We are also more likely to get divorced or dissolve our cohabitating union. So, if you live with a partner or you are like if you're one of those people that you don't want to get married, but you just have a lifelong boyfriend or girlfriend or partner, as some people call it, then you're more likely to let that fizzle out or destruct that or have that end or just let it dissolve or whatever. So, you're more likely to end up separated, basically. And you are more likely to have children outside of your marriage or your partnership. Like, the statistics or the stereotypes kind of show that you are more likely to have a blended family. And bringing in kids from one marriage and another and your current marriage and trying to put it all together is more of what the family dynamic for fatherless children and fatherless women really looks like. It's not necessarily liked the mom and dad, like, the children and that's it. It's like, no, you have the mom, dad, the child, and then like, a child from this marriage. Child from this marriage. Like, maybe this one over here. Like, it's just maybe someone like me that your parents weren't married and then your parents just got pregnant and then they weren't together. A whole thing. So, there are a lot of different situations, but basically, you're more likely to have a marriage or a partnership that has children outside of it.

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Alright, everyone, that is going to be it for this week's episode. Thank you so much for joining me at the Horth House this week. It’s always a blast getting to talk to you all about daddy issues and just life in general. If you can, please make sure you are subscribed to the podcast. Like it, review it, share it with a friend, share it on Instagram, and do all the things. If you want to go ahead and check out the Horth House page, feel free to do that. It’s on Instagram @HorthHouse. And then if you want to just go follow me personally, you can go follow me @Aly.Horth. It's A-L-Y period H-O-R-T-H. Otherwise, I will see you all in two weeks. Thank you again for joining me. I hope you all have a great couple of weeks. Have fun, make good choices, and I will see you all then. Bye!